I think you are confusing respect with fear. many people do, which is my point here. Fear) is when you know you will be punished. You behave to avoid the punishment. Respect) is when you like someone so much that you want to please them. You behave to win the approval of the person whom you respect.
As you say, both work. BUT one makes you a better person of all the time, not just when you think you are being watched. Look at it like speeding. Some people never speed, not even when they know they can get away with it, while others speed every chance they get. I am willing to bet real money that the ones who speed are the ones who had fear instead of respect.
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The ends do not justify the means. On top of that fear will only work when there is a possibility of getting caught. Look at how many "well behaved" kids go wild when away from home, because there is no fear of getting in trouble. Then there are the kids who are good no matter where they are. The only difference is the motive for being good. fear or respect. One works 24-7, one does not.
no arguments there. I'm not saying kids know better. I'm saying there are better ways of getting kids to do the right thing. Much better ways than belting them.
If you were brought up in fear your respect will come from a new equal adult relationship with your parents, not as a result of the childhood beatings.
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