Just need to vent some pent up feelings. Sorry if this is old news! Here goes.
Advised close family last June (2004) of our application, some took the news better than others. My elder sibling (by 15 years) who I rarely see, was emotional at that time, but has said little since.
She asked me out for a drink this week, nice I thought chance for sisterly bonds to strenghthen. We did have level headed conversations, but the main undertone was how she was going to cope with our mother. Advised me mother now has vallium for the big departure next month. She thinks mum will pine away, she, my sister ,has turned down a new job, as her responsibilities with mum would prevent her doing the hours required. How will she cope if mum becomes senile later on?
My mum's life is my 2 girls and the void they leave will be impossible to fill.
I know this and have had sleepless nights and nauseous feelings thinking of the impact of our emigration, but to have this laid on me just before we go was hard to take. House sold, cars sold, jobs resigned and what do I do now? Say I'm not going? My hubby is worried sick that this is how I am thinking.
I wish these issues had been mentioned months back by her rather than now.
My mother and mother in law tell us we cannot be expected to live our lives to suit them. If we waited until there were no parental ties, then we'd be too old to apply and the girls too settled in senior school etc to uproot.
Am I being selfish, unreasonable and unthinking because I want to move to Oz with my family? Has anyone else been through last minute family plantshells? Just need to know I am doing the right thing and am not alone in these feelings. I do not want to lose what relationship I have with my sibling either.
Thanks for reading to my moans! M
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