On Tue, 6 Dec 2005, Giggles
A winwin ideaHi,Excuse me for interrupting you. I'm Alwen King,As a pursuer of "grid economy", I am very appreciated with its originality. I think "grid economy" will be a totally...
What would you do 920Giggles Let me rephrase this as a way of understanding it correctly. If the cooking were spectacular, you'd put up with the boor of a husband. If the husband...
I would do the honorable thing: lie. I'd say, "Thank you so much for the invitation, but we can't make it. December is a really busy month for us. Why don't I call you sometime after the first of the year and we'll work on getting together. Is that good for you?"
Then don't call. Unless you see this woman at work or at church or someplace you frequent regularly, this should take care of it for a while.
You call her a "friend", so I buttume you know her well. You might just have to invite her to lunch one day and say that getting the families together is such a hbuttle and that the two of you don't get to visit much when everyone is together and you would just perfer for the two of you to sneak off for a "girls time together" lunch or shopping trip.
If she insists on family dinner, at some point, you'll have to be honest. You might start with, "our husbands didn't 'click' they way you and I did." Chances are she knows all too well that her husband is impossible. You are better off losing a "friend" than putting your family through that ordeal just to be nice.
Elaine, too
